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Dr. Joan Rosenberg

Transform Yourself at the Speed of Thought

Archives for December 2018

Need help crushing your 2019 goals?

Emotional Strength, Emotional Well-Being

Happy New Year. Have you set goals for 2019?

One of my goals this year is to speak more so I can get the key messages in my book out to more people.

Yet, in the process of setting goals, we can get anxious about meeting them.

My book is chock full of strategies to help decrease anxiety and to help them move forward on their goals.

Here’s one approach from my new book, 90 Seconds to a Life You Love: How to Master Your Difficult Feelings to Cultivate Lasting Confidence, Resilience, and Authenticity that will help.

I call it the Resourcefulness Reset. Grab your journal or laptop to complete this exercise:

1. Write down three to five specific worries.

2. Choose one and allow your worry to play out to its logical conclusion. With your worry in mind, ask yourself, What’s the worst thing that would happen if my worry about the situation came to pass? Once you have the answer, ask yourself. If it did, then what? Keep asking these two questions until your worry can go no further.

3. Write out every answer you have to each round of those two questions.

4. Also write down the feelings you might experience if that event or situation occurred, as well as the resources you might need at each step of the way. Keep writing until you reach a sense of completion.

5. Then, read your initial worry and, one by one, read each of your responses. Visualize each response; see yourself effectively handle the situation, whether that involves your feelings, words, or actions.

6. Address the next worry in the same way. Once you make your way through the entire list, take a moment to check in with yourself to see if the intensity of your worry has diminished.

As you face life events and situations, remember that reducing your anxiety involves handling the emotions you’ll feel if something doesn’t go the way you wanted or expected it to.

What if you get frustrated? Or angry? Or disappointed? Or embarrassed?

When you start to believe you have the available resources—emotional or otherwise—to manage the situation, you act accordingly.

In my book, I’ll show you exactly how to experience and move through eight difficult feelings.

If you can do that, you can pursue anything you want.

How To Deal With “Comparison-itis”

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Perhaps you, like many others, use the new year as a time for reflection and planning and for making changes to enhance some aspect of your life.

Yet when people consider making changes, they often compare themselves to others, like one reader who recently wrote me.

Check out what she said:

“By all appearances, I’m a successful woman in her early 40s. Healthy, happily married, and with a good social network, I have no major complaints. But I’m pursuing some new avenues lately because I’m trying to change careers.

Every time I think I’m making progress, I see someone way more successful than me. There are so many people who are far ahead of where I want to be, I get frustrated and sad.

How do I deal with comparison-itis? Is it a sign I should quit following my dream? Help.”

Have you felt this way sometimes, too?

Comparing yourself to others is a variation on harsh self-criticism. It dismisses your own experience because you are placing your focus on others instead.

The only positive reason to compare yourself to others is for aspirational purposes—in order to see yourself as able to accomplish what others have done.

Otherwise, it’s a way to distract from feeling vulnerable, disappointed, sad, or frustrated.
The next time you feel overwhelmed by comparisonitis, ask yourself:

With whom are you currently comparing yourself?

Do you do it for aspirational reasons or as a form of distracting?

How can you take your energy and direct it toward an action that will move you forward?

As you spend time planning for the new year and setting your sights on new things or new ways of becoming, I hope you’ll stay centered on what’s most important to you.

Sneak Peek: My new book!

Confidence, Emotional Strength, Emotional Well-Being

My new book 90 Seconds to a Life You Love comes out in two months, but I’m doing something now to THANK YOU for all your support:

I’m giving away a free eBook to you! Just pre-order the new book via this page, and you’ll get the Release Your Anxiety eBook, plus downloadable transcripts for my TEDx Talks:

 

90 Seconds to a life you love

ORDER HERE

The talks have been called inspirational and heart-wrenching. Likewise, the transcripts are like a wisdom recipe boiled down into a few pages. Print them out and take them with you (or download to your tablet or phone).

**This is limited time only so please pre-order to get your gifts now.**

The full book description is below! I hope you’ll pre-order it, get your bonuses, and share the word!

I spent the last two years compiling my decades of experience into this book for you!

I’m super excited to share it with you.

ABOUT THE BOOK

We all deal with emotions every day that run the gamut from pleasant to unpleasant. We’re human. You and I are the products of our accumulated experiences, environment, and genetics.

But for many of us, dealing with unpleasant feelings is tough! Often, it seems impossible to handle difficult emotions such as sadness, anger, and embarrassment.

In response, we avoid these feelings. But they manifest themselves in other ways: stress, anxiety, illness, even meltdowns…

What if you had a simple recipe for managing your most difficult feelings? What if you could build the emotional strength you need to create the life of your dreams?

It can happen. Start with the formula below:

1 choice. 8 feelings. 90 seconds.

90 Seconds to a Life You Love, an approach grounded in neuroscience findings, teaches you to be fully present and aware when you experience unpleasant feelings. You can choose to block or avoid these difficult emotions with alcohol, food or denial. Yet, if you make the one choice to stay present and ride one or more 90 second waves of 1 or more of 8 unpleasant feelings, then you will start to build what becomes unwavering confidence.

That formula is called the Rosenberg Reset and it will change your life.

When you move through these emotions successfully, you’ll be better equipped to handle unpleasant feelings in the future and put yourself on the path to resilience, emotional strength, positive self-esteem and rock solid confidence.

90 Seconds to a Life You Love not only describes how to use this formula, the book shows you how to apply it to common emotional challenges such as difficulty speaking up or worrying about what others think of you.

“If you want unwavering confidence to pursue your goals and dreams, then this will guide you to it.”
-Jack Canfield, co-author of the Chicken Soup for the Soul series and The Success Principles

This is the new bible for understanding and managing your thoughts, feelings and emotions so you achieve the greatest version of your life. Dr. Rosenberg makes it so easy to become a master of self!~

I highly recommend this book!

  • John Assaraf, Chairman & CEO NeuroGym,  NYT Best-selling author of Having It All

YOUR SEASONAL SURVIVAL GUIDE

Confidence, Emotional Strength, Emotional Well-Being

Do you feel overwhelmed? Is there too much on your plate?

Is it tough to find energy this time of year?

You’re not alone.

Many of us struggle during the holiday season. Not only that, in many parts of the world, as the winter season is fully setting in, bringing cold, snow, less daylight and other weather changes, we know these changes can have an effect on one’s mood.

Your Seasonal Survival Guide

Here are a few of my key resources to manage your way more effectively through this busy time of year.

The first one has to do with asking for help – and the second one, well, it’s a little cheeky and just for fun; the third one is more serious and may help you work through challenging losses or challenging moments in your life.

 

  • The Compliment Cure – How often do you refrain from asking for help? Do you worry about being a burden on others? I hear this concern frequently in my psychotherapy practice. What if asking for help is like paying someone a compliment? Click here to find out exactly how this works.

 

  • Just for fun! – Recently I created a short, light-hearted quiz that features chocolate bunnies. (Who doesn’t appreciate some delicious chocolate now & then?) The quiz asks, “How Real Are You?” In other words, do you speak your truth? The results may surprise you! Take the Quiz NOW!
  • Coping with Grief – The holidays are a time for cherishing family & loved ones. It’s also a time when we remember those who are no longer with us. If you’re dealing with grief and sadness from a loss, please take a few minutes to watch my TEDx talk: Grief: A Pathway to Forgiveness.

I hope these few tools help you in some way. Quick reminder that there’s also an incredible bonus pack available when you pre-order my new book, 90 Seconds to a Life You Love.

You’ll receive:

  • Two TEDx Talks
  • Full transcripts to my TEDx talks (available nowhere else)
  • A free eBook: Release Your Anxiety

CLICK HERE TO RESERVE YOUR COPY NOW.