March 2019 - Dr. Joan Rosenberg

Book Series 5: Redefining Emotional Strength

Emotional Strength, Emotional Well-Being

_{In my book ‘90 Seconds To A Life You Love’, I talk about emotional strength meaning ‘feeling capable and being resourceful’. Feeling capable of facing life’s challenges emerges out of your experience of effectively handling the eight unpleasant feelings.}

_{Though it may seem obvious, many people maintain a faulty perception regarding emotional strength; they believe being emotionally strong means controlling, shutting down, or shutting out thoughts, feelings, needs, and perceptions – in other words, dismissing what you know.

By contrast, when someone stays aware of and attuned to their experience (“know what you know”), they consistently feel more empowered and more willing to take risks in all areas of their life.

Feeling capable and being resourceful are necessary in order to develop true emotional strength, self-confidence, resilience and a sense of wellbeing.}

_{This weeks question:
How have you defined emotional strength?
Or expressed a different way, what makes you feel emotionally strong?}

_{I continue this discussion deeper in the first chapter of my book. It’s a must read.

I’d love for you to respond on my facebook group!}

_{Join my group on Facebook LOVE MY LIFE and let me know. I’ll post the question and jump on myself to chat and answer questions you may have, on Wednesday at 3:30pm Pacific.

To A Life You Love,

Dr. Joan Rosenberg
DrJoanRosenberg.com
90SecondsBook.com}

_{P.S.
Here’s how to get the book:
Step 1: Buy the book at any of these online stores:
IndieBound | Barnes & Noble | Amazon UK | Amazon | Powells Books | BAM! | Book Depository | Waterstone

Step 2: Claim your bonuses here.}

Book Series 4: How To Achieve Emotional Mastery – Emotional Strength and Weakness

Confidence, Emotional Strength

Over my three and a half decades of counseling, I came to recognize a pattern among many of my clients that involved common-yet-destructive misconceptions about emotional strength and emotional weakness. I found that individuals with the lowest levels of self-confidence generally held tightly to the beliefs or behaviors described below.

In my book ‘90 Seconds To A Life You Love’, I talk about 14 beliefs that characterize low-confidence individuals. A few of them are:

disdain uncomfortable and unpleasant feelings
doubt or question most things they say or do
are hesitant to take risks
often feel anxious
tend to worry about being a burden to others
worry about what others think of them

What have you been taught about emotional strength and weakness? Do any of the following comments sound familiar to you?

Tearfulness and crying make you look weak.
Tough it out.
Buck up.
Get over it.

Join my group on Facebook group LOVE MY LIFE on Wednesday 3:30pm PST and let me know what your thoughts are about emotional strength.

I can respond directly to you then.

See you there!

To A Life You Love,

Dr. Joan Rosenberg
DrJoanRosenberg.com
90SecondsBook.com

Book Series 3: How To Achieve Emotional Mastery – Building the Framework

Confidence, Emotional Strength, Emotional Well-Being

Over recent weeks, I’ve been talking about the importance of managing your feelings well. I’m not really one to beat around the bush, so, if you’re good with it, let’s just jump right in.

Have you ever heard the term “emotional management disorder”? Think of it as the inability to comfortably manage your everyday emotional reactions and experiences. Stop for a moment and consider whether you allow yourself to be aware and in touch or have difficulty tolerating your thoughts, feelings, needs, and perceptions? or If you “try not to know what you know”, then there’s a good chance that you are finding ways to “check out” or distract from your experiences – the thoughts, feelings, needs and perceptions that you sorta know are true for you.

In my book ‘90 Seconds To A Life You Love’, I tell a story about “Liz”, who first came to see me because she was suffering from an eating disorder. I walk through “how” this came about and “how” it became apparent that the problem for which she came to therapy for was a clear signal of something deeper and harder for her to experience. It wasn’t about the food at all.

Does this sound familiar? Perhaps you put your attention on issues or concerns that shift the focus away from what is really bothering you. Instead, you find ways to distract yourself from your real concerns. Maybe you’re still having a hard time because you are focusing on “controlling” the wrong thing?

This week I’d like you to consider the following thought:

Write down what you do to control your emotions. Write down what you believe the reason may be for doing so and then dig deeper and write down what may be really bothering you. Is there an epiphany? What did you learn?

In my book, I go further into Liz’ story and the real root cause of her eating disorder. She had an epiphany!

Join my group on Facebook LOVE MY LIFE and let me know. I’d love for you to respond on my facebook group! That way I can respond directly with you there.

I’ll post the question and jump on myself to chat as well on Wednesday afternoons around 3:30 PDT.

See you there!

To A Life You Love,

Dr. Joan Rosenberg
DrJoanRosenberg.com
90SecondsBook.com_{P.S.
Here’s how to get the book:
Step 1: Buy the book at any of these online stores:
IndieBound | Barnes & Noble | Amazon UK | Amazon | Powells Books | BAM! | Book Depository | Waterstone

Step 2: Claim your bonuses here.}

Book Series 2: The Gift of Unpleasant Feelings

Confidence, Emotional Strength

In my book ‘90 Seconds To A Life You Love’, I start off by talking about the skills that have to be built to reset your ability to absorb and deal with unpleasant feelings.

Did you ever think that unpleasant feelings were a gift?

Most of us want to avoid unpleasant thoughts and feelings either because they are so darn uncomfortable or because they elicit some measure of pain. This avoidance, what some psychologists call “experiential avoidance,” occurs by distracting yourself.

If you continue to distract or stay disconnected from the truth of your own life experiences over long periods of time, you might experience feelings of emptiness, numbness, and soulful depressionTM – a result of being disconnected from yourself.

When you’re able to effectively handle unpleasant emotions, you’re likely to feel more centered, confident, capable, and calm in the moment. Your consistent ability to deal with these feelings translates into relief from anxiety, harsh self-criticism, and negative self-talk.

I continue this discussion deeper in the first chapter of my book. It’s a must read.

This weeks question: Which of the eight unpleasant feelings (sadness, shame, helplessness, anger, vulnerability, embarrassment, disappointment and frustration) do you have the hardest time with? Any thoughts about why this/these particular feelings?

I’d love for you to respond on my facebook group!

Join my group on Facebook LOVE MY LIFE and let me know. I’ll post the question and jump on myself to chat as well on Wednesday.

To A Life You Love,

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