Over my three and a half decades of counseling, I came to recognize a pattern among many of my clients that involved common-yet-destructive misconceptions about emotional strength and emotional weakness. I found that individuals with the lowest levels of self-confidence generally held tightly to the beliefs or behaviors described below.
In my book ‘90 Seconds To A Life You Love’, I talk about 14 beliefs that characterize low-confidence individuals. A few of them are:
- disdain uncomfortable and unpleasant feelings
- doubt or question most things they say or do
- are hesitant to take risks
- often feel anxious
- tend to worry about being a burden to others
- worry about what others think of them
What have you been taught about emotional strength and weakness? Do any of the following comments sound familiar to you?
- Tearfulness and crying make you look weak.
- Tough it out.
- Buck up.
- Get over it.
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