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Feelings are for a threefold purpose: protection, connection, and creativity. When you feel safe and secure, both alone and with others, your mental, emotional, and physical resources are not required for protection or basic survival needs. At this point, your feelings are available for connection and creativity, often in the form of relationships, risk-taking, and…

How Our Parents Effect How We Handle Feelings Did you know that challenges in facing difficult feelings generally start in childhood. (To a lesser degree, they can begin with very painful events experienced in adulthood.) There is an extensive body of research on how infants and children bond with parents or caretakers that describes the…

LET’S TALK ABOUT LINGERING FEELINGS I hope you are enjoying my weekly emails, covering ‘90 Seconds To A Life You Love‘. If you’ve finished the book, these weekly reminders can be really helpful! For those of you who have not purchased the book yet, remember the weekly ‘chats’ so to speak are only a small…

Experience The Wave At the end of last week’s discussion, I suggested that the next time your feelings emerge, pay attention. Take a moment, breathe, and really notice what is taking place inside of you on a physiological level. Experience the wave. Let’s talk about ‘the wave’. Neuroscientist and author Jill Bolte-Taylor describes when an…

We all love ‘how to’ lists. It feeds our go to need to get things done quick. Working through our emotions to create a better life is a life long ‘How To’. However, knowing that each one of our emotions can be addressed in one or more ‘90 Second’ waves is not just a ‘thing’…

Choosing vulnerability means you can tolerate the other seven feelings. That is what it takes. I believe that we are at our greatest emotional strength when we make the choice to be vulnerable. When you know that the most likely unwanted outcome of being vulnerable (assuming that the outcome is not success) is that you…