My final post on covering grief is what I call “the unexpected riches of grief”.
This might be a challenging idea to grasp – that the grief that you may feel holds value and depth – yet it can have a positive impact in your life.
First, understand that moving through grief means making sense of memories – your life stories – and the pain connected to those memories.
Once you have made sense of your life stories and make your way through emotional pain, the experience shifts from a life event, situation, or episode from which you may have distanced yourself, to an experience that is more meaningfully integrated into the overall narrative thread of how you tell the story of your life.
Yet you can’t make the pain disappear simply by saying to yourself, “Let’s just get rid of the bad stuff” – as if you’re just taking out the trash without a second thought.
The very feelings you tried to push away when those life events first occurred are ultimately the same ones that can help you move to a place of understanding and forgiveness.
In order to really, truly, move through grief, you have to come to grips with the fact that you can never undo what was done, nor do what was left undone.
Let’s read that again:
“In order to really move through grief, you have to come to grips with the fact that you can never undo what was done, nor do what was left undone.”
Making your way through this grief, then, is a crucial step as you move towards greater emotional well-being and emotional mastery.
You are able to release anger, bitterness, grudges, and resentment and can, instead, be less emotionally reactive. You can become a compassionate observer to what used to trigger you.
You’ll notice that you naturally become more spontaneous and present. You become self-aware and self-attuned.
You possess the ability to feel and live in (and with) your moment-to-moment experience.
Use the Grief Reset Protocol.
I know from my practice what it can do to change people’s lives.
When you deal with such grief, you open yourself up to laughter and joy.
When you forgive, you open to deeper connections, with yourself and others.
“When you deal with grief, you open yourself up to laughter and joy.
When you forgive, you open to deeper connections,
with yourself and others.”
Know that facing the truth within yourself is the only thing that puts you in the right relationship with yourself – and it is the only thing that can lead to love within and for yourself.
The more you stay present to the truth of what your life was, the more you free yourself to create a life you love.
Dr. Joan Rosenberg
If you are wanting to revisit my previous posts on grief, follow these links: