rely on yourself Archives - Dr. Joan Rosenberg

Let’s talk about ‘asking for help and relying on others’ this week.

Being resourceful is the second defining element of emotional strength. Particularly important in being resourceful is having the ability to depend on others. It involves being comfortable with your need for both independence and dependence, as well as your feelings associated with both.

When you are open to and willing to rely on others, it becomes much easier for you to:

a) acknowledge your needs and limitations
b) ask for help
c) openly and warmly receive what is given (support, love, time, energy, etc.)

We are in an ‘individualistic culture’ and those who ask for help, appear to be weak. However, we are social beings and there is very little we can do 100% on our own. Asking for help is what it takes to become emotionally strong.

Asking opens the door to the last step: to receive graciously. It is appropriate to absorb what is good and to feel grateful for the appreciation and support of others. When others extend their assistance, wisdom, availability, time, talents, or enthusiasm to you, unquestionably, they are giving of themselves. Gracious receipt of their generosity not only meets whatever needs you may have, it also honors them. When you allow yourself to receive, thus honor, you have reached that harmonious balance between independence and dependence.

This weeks question:

Do you find it easy to ask for help? Are you open to receiving help?

Do you think ‘about’ your experiences or think them ‘away’?

_{I continue this discussion deeper in the first chapter of my book. It’s a must read.

I’d love for you to respond on my facebook group!}

_{Join my group on Facebook LOVE MY LIFE and let me know. I’ll post the question and jump on myself to chat and answer questions you may have, on Wednesday at 3:30pm Pacific.

To A Life You Love,

Dr. Joan Rosenberg
DrJoanRosenberg.com
90SecondsBook.com}

Let’s talk about ‘relying on yourself’ this week.

_{You might be thinking ‘I do that every day Dr. Joan!”. Let me be clear … if you are avoiding unpleasant feelings, that is NOT relying on yourself. In my tens of thousands of hours as a therapist and studying how I could help clients deal with how difficult feelings, I found there were 5 patterns of behavior people used to avoid unpleasant feelings. (I cover all 5 in length in the first chapter of ’90 Seconds To A Life You Love’.

As soon as you increase your awareness and acceptance of the full range of your feelings – pleasant and unpleasant – your experience of yourself and your sense of being capable in the world starts to change in a very positive way.

Think about what you do and really take time to ponder that statement. Once a person is able to tolerate unpleasant feelings, everything else changes, too. There is an almost immediate experience of growth, movement, and momentum. People feel stronger and more empowered; they become willing to speak up and have difficult conversations, take risks that once felt too difficult or frightening, and actively pursue dreams that previously felt out of reach.}_{As you heighten your self-awareness, you will likely find you develop a greater capacity to tolerate, face, know, bear, feel, embrace, and express as much of your moment-to-moment experience as possible. Typically, the greater your self-awareness and willingness to stay present to your experience, the more capable you become in negotiating all aspects of life.}

_{This weeks question:

What is your capacity to deal with your unpleasant emotions?}

_{I continue this discussion deeper in the first chapter of my book. It’s a must read.

I’d love for you to respond on my facebook group!}

_{P.S.
Here’s how to get the book:
Step 1: Buy the book at any of these online stores:
IndieBound | Barnes & Noble | Amazon UK | Amazon | Powells Books | BAM! | Book Depository | Waterstone

Step 2: Claim your bonuses here.}

Book Series 7: Asking for Help & Relying On Others

Let’s talk about ‘asking for help and relying on others’ this week.

Book Series 6: Feeling Capable – Relying on Yourself

Let’s talk about ‘relying on yourself’ this week.