Do You Address Emotions Like Dr. Spock?
Because of the intensity and overwhelming nature of unpleasant feelings, many of my clients have expressed a desire to be a bit more like Star Trek’s Dr. Spock, moving through life in a robotic and unfeeling manner. While this can certainly seem appealing when we think of what it would allow us to avoid, we must remember that Dr. Spock’s emotional flat-lining meant he avoided both the lows and the highs. He didn’t experience pain, but joy wasn’t accessible, either. Turning towards the pain, rather than away from it, allows you to connect with, and therefore address, your emotions instead of allowing them to fester unresolved.
And, if you are someone who has actively and intentionally shut out, shut down, disconnected from, or distracted from unpleasant feelings, then it is common to perceive feelings as overwhelming or flooding when they break through the wall you’ve built to protect yourself, or when you first open yourself to fully experiencing them again.
One way to help you “read” your emotional reactions better is to enhance your ability to be aware of, acknowledge, and experience, rather than deny, your bodily sensations. In my book ‘90 Seconds To A Life You Love’, there is an Awareness Exercise. It is guided instructions to help learn your ‘awareness connection’ within your own body.
In my book, 90 Seconds To A Life You Love, I go more in-depth into what we experience in our body helping us know what we feel emotionally.
This weeks questions:
Are you a ‘Dr. Spock’ regarding your emotions? If so, get out your journal or a piece of paper and write down why you think that is.
I’d love for you to respond on my facebook group!
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