In my book ‘90 Seconds To A Life You Love’, I start off by talking about the skills that have to be built to reset your ability to absorb and deal with unpleasant feelings.
Did you ever think that unpleasant feelings were a gift?
Most of us want to avoid unpleasant thoughts and feelings either because they are so darn uncomfortable or because they elicit some measure of pain. This avoidance, what some psychologists call “experiential avoidance,” occurs by distracting yourself.
If you continue to distract or stay disconnected from the truth of your own life experiences over long periods of time, you might experience feelings of emptiness, numbness, and soulful depressionTM – a result of being disconnected from yourself.
When you’re able to effectively handle unpleasant emotions, you’re likely to feel more centered, confident, capable, and calm in the moment. Your consistent ability to deal with these feelings translates into relief from anxiety, harsh self-criticism, and negative self-talk.
I continue this discussion deeper in the first chapter of my book. It’s a must read.
This weeks question: Which of the eight unpleasant feelings (sadness, shame, helplessness, anger, vulnerability, embarrassment, disappointment and frustration) do you have the hardest time with? Any thoughts about why this/these particular feelings?
I’d love for you to respond on my facebook group!
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To A Life You Love,
Dr. Joan Rosenberg
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