How to Create a Confident, Resilient, and Authentic Life of Your Design.

These past few months, I have been humbled and blessed by those who have been touched by my work, people like you, who are reading and learning from the methods that I have created over the past 30 years. Some of you reading this today, are seasoned supporters of my work, for which I am eternally grateful.

Those of you who are joining me for the first time, I wanted to take a moment in this week’s email to go over the core principles of what I teach and how they can help you live the life you love. And for those of you that have already been learning from my work, please use this post to help remind you to incorporate these ideas into your daily routine.

How to Create a Confident, Resilient, and Authentic Life of Your Design

Encapsulated below are the ten essential keys for developing emotional mastery and creating a confident, resilient, and authentic life of your design. If you are following along in the book, I will include the chapters below in which you can find the related content.

1. Check your attitudes. (Chapter 9)

• Resolve to be curious, open, and flexible in the face of change and adversity.
• Exhibit a willingness to learn from every life experience.
• Commit to having an optimistic attitude, perseverance, and the mindset to become a life-long learner.

2. Choose awareness, not avoidance. (Chapter 2 and 3)

• Be aware of and in touch with as much of your moment-to-moment experience as possible.
• Master the eight difficult feelings using the Rosenberg Reset – this is the essence of feeling capable in the world. Lean into vulnerability – make it your greatest strength.

3. Diminish distractions. (Chapter 4)

• Do what you can to live fully present and aware.
• Identify your distractions, notice what they help you avoid, and move toward the unpleasant feelings.
• Relieve anxiety by identifying and experiencing the difficult feelings underneath.

4. End faulty thinking and harsh self-criticism. (Chapter 6)

• Break free from cognitive distortions and use of “Bad Emotional Math”; redirect to more constructive, expansive, open, and optimistic thinking.
• Notice your harsh self-criticism and use it as a signal that something hard to bear is making itself known to you.
• Ask yourself, “What is difficult for me to know, feel, or bear right now?” and bring it more fully into consciousness. Then use the Reset if painful feelings surface.

5. Speak. Take Action. (Chapter 7)

• Approach others and speak from a positive, kind and well-intended place.
• Speak your truth so that you can live your most authentic self.
• Decide what you want to pursue or achieve, identify the first small step, and take it.
• Identify the next step, and take that one, too. Keep taking action and persevere until you reach your goal.

6. Release your old story. (Chapter 8)

• Make sense of your life stories.
• Let go of grief and disguised grief.
• Forgive. Embrace a new story.
• Access joy and deepen connections.

7. Ask for help. (Chapter 1 and 9)

• Know that asking for help is the essence of resourcefulness and a key aspect of emotional strength and resilience.
• Draw from the experiences of prior successes.
• Create a social safety net. Develop closer relationships with family and friends.

8. Accept and absorb compliments. (Chapter 9)

• Understand that compliments are a reflection of you and update your self image.

9. Live by a code of high values. (Chapter 10)

• Be congruent. Make sure your words and actions match your thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and values.
• Generate the values you want to embody. Live who you want to become.
• Be intentional: think, speak, and act only in the direction you want your life to go.

10. Design your life. (Chapter 1 and 10)

• Create your future. Imagine what you would love. Write down what you have envisioned. Who and what do you want to become? What will give you purpose and meaning?
• Engage in daily practices of gratitude, setting intentions, and reviewing your vision and wins to establish the momentum you need to achieve your goals and dreams.

It’s important to understand that life is dynamic, creative, and changeable – almost as if life has a life of itself.

As you demand more of yourself, you’ll demand more from life – and that’s how you will influence life’s unfolding, into creating a life that you love.

This weeks action step:
Pick one category for each week in the month of August. Identify for yourself the action steps you can put in place to make these ideas come alive and be part of your daily practice.

Sending my best,
Dr. Joan Rosenberg

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